Featured Guest Post "In Defence of Caring" by Salwa
Why I refuse to stop caring, even when the world tells me to toughen up.
Gary’s Thoughts
When times get tough for everyone our thoughts and actions often go to looking after ourselves and our closest loved ones, at the expense of others. The bit that really connected with my heart was this:
So, when someone asks, “Why do you care so much?” my answer is simple: Because it matters. Because caring is what makes life worth living.
As
says “Caring in a cynical world is an act of rebellion.”I for one, am a natural rebel but I rail against the machine through kindness.
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’s Substack, Quietly BecomingIn Defence of Caring" - by Salwa
Why I refuse to stop caring, even when the world tells me to toughen up.
It’s a question that’s haunted me at times, usually said in a tone that feels dismissive, as though caring deeply is something to be ashamed of. In those moments, I’ve doubted myself: Am I too sensitive? Should I care less? Would life be easier if I just stopped feeling so much?
But here’s the truth I’ve come to embrace: caring is not a flaw. It’s a reflection of our humanity. To care deeply is to feel deeply, to live fully, to connect meaningfully.
So when someone asks, “Why do you care so much?” my answer is simple: Because it matters. Because caring is what makes life worth living.
The Power of Caring in a Cynical World
We’re surrounded by messages that tell us not to care too much. Cynicism is often mistaken for wisdom, and detachment is held up as a kind of armour. The world can be harsh, we’re told, so it’s better to toughen up than to feel too much.
But what does that kind of cynicism do to us? It dulls our ability to empathise. It tells us to look away from suffering, to dismiss kindness as naïveté, to view hope as futile. It’s a defense mechanism, sure, but one that costs us dearly.
Caring in a cynical world is an act of rebellion. It’s refusing to let the weight of the world harden you. It’s saying, “I see the pain, the injustice, the brokenness - and I still choose to believe in the possibility of good.”
Have you ever looked at someone who genuinely cares and felt a sense of awe? The teacher who invests in every student, the activist who fights for justice, the friend who shows up without being asked. These are the people who keep the world turning, not despite their caring, but because of it.
To care is to resist apathy. To care is to stay tender in a world that tries to make you tough.
How Caring Leads to Connection, Purpose, and Change
Caring isn’t just an emotional response - it’s a bridge. It connects us to the people around us, to our values, and to the causes that matter most.
Think about the moments when you’ve felt most alive. Were they solitary, detached, or indifferent? Or were they moments of deep connection - sharing joy, comforting a friend, standing up for something you believe in?
For me, some of the most transformative experiences in my life have come from caring deeply, even when it was hard. The times I’ve stayed up late comforting someone I love. The moments I’ve poured my heart into something I believe in, even when it felt like no one else cared. The times I’ve dared to say, “This matters to me, and I’m not going to stay silent.”
Caring gives life meaning. It reminds us that we’re part of something bigger than ourselves. It’s what drives the most powerful changes in the world - not just grand, sweeping movements, but the quiet, everyday acts of love and kindness that ripple outward.
When you care, you create the possibility of connection. And when you connect, you create the possibility of change.
Defending Emotional Investment
But here’s the hard truth: caring comes with a cost.
We live in a world that tells us to “toughen up,” to stop being so sensitive, to protect ourselves from the inevitable disappointment or heartbreak that comes with caring too much. And let’s be honest - caring deeply does hurt sometimes.
When you care, you open yourself up to vulnerability. You risk rejection, failure, or loss. You risk being misunderstood or dismissed. And there will be times when the weight of caring feels unbearable.
But what’s the alternative?
Detachment might feel safe, but it’s a lonely kind of safety. It isolates us, cutting us off from the very things that give life meaning. It might shield us from pain, but it also blocks out joy.
Emotional investment isn’t weakness - it’s strength. It’s the courage to feel deeply in a world that often rewards indifference. It’s the willingness to show up, even when there are no guarantees. It’s a declaration that the things we care about are worth the risk.
Reclaiming the Right to Care
So, why do I care? Because caring is what makes life meaningful. It’s what connects us to each other, to our purpose, and to the world we hope to create.
I care because I want to live fully, not just exist. I care because I believe that love, kindness, and empathy are the things that make us human. I care because the alternative - a life of detachment, indifference, and cynicism - feels hollow.
If you’ve ever been told to care less, to stop feeling so much, or to guard your heart too closely, let me tell you this: don’t listen. Don’t shrink yourself to fit a world that tells you not to feel.
Care fiercely. Care unapologetically. Care about what matters to you, even if it feels risky or uncomfortable.
Caring isn’t a flaw - it’s a gift. And in a world that tries so hard to make us numb, choosing to care is an act of radical defiance.
Here are Few Questions to Reflect On
What’s something you care about deeply, even if others don’t understand?
Have you ever held back from caring because you feared the pain or judgment that might come with it?
How can you reclaim your right to care, starting today?
Not every wound is meant to heal. And maybe that’s the point.
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Thank you again for featuring In Defence of Caring, Gary. It means a lot to see it shared in this way and I really appreciate the thought you’ve put into every part of the post. Grateful to be part of The Positive Echo.